Houdini

I have to warn you ahead of time that this will not be the last time I'll post about this topic.  I almost don't even know where to start.  But what is it makes that so many twenty-something guys (I'm hesitant to say "men"...) feel so entitled?  In their so-called version of dating, the "relationship" ultimately is defined by what they want.  I just heard about a mutual friend of mine who was dating someone for almost two years.  They were very close, happy, had a great relationship; a few weeks ago he was talking about how someday he would propose and convert to Judaism for her.  Then, out of the blue, he started to distance himself from her, until he finally told her he decided he wasn't really into her or the relationship anymore and didn't feel like dating.  That was it.  She called him a couple days later to get some sort of explanation as to why he just went dark (good for her!), but he never called back.  And that was the end of that.

I've found that so many of the guys I've dated have acted in a frighteningly similar way (don't worry...stories to come).  To me, it shows an immaturity and sense of entitlement that is hard for me to comprehend.  Since when did it become acceptable to just disappear?  Is it that they are too immature to have an adult conversation, or are they too immature to care?  Perhaps at this age they feel as if they are finally making money and have enough power to do whatever they feel like.  Or maybe they feel that once things start to become boring or difficult, they lose interest...and disappear.  Or do they act like this because we allow them to?  Many of us attempt to be kind, fun, breezy, and accomodating-- especially when in the beginning-- but can it be too much?  Should we be more demanding and no-nonsense at the start so they know we deserve at least the respect of a breakup?